I'm back

Wow, it has been too long but I'm back now and I just hope my stay will be longer this time.

We just recently had the 16 days of activism against women abuse, the sad thing is that half the women in South Africa had no clue about it. That happens to be the half that actually suffers from such abuse. How do we end this cycle?

I had a chat to my collegues this morning about women who think that the only way a man can prove his love is by 'disciplining them' (as if they are incapable of telling right from wrong). Why does someone have to be violent to prove their love? I don't know maybe I've been living in another world for the past few years and someone changed the rules in my absence.

Society teaches women to be subserviant and dependant on their male counterparts and I think that's where the problem starts. You get people who think that being single is some kind of a curse, like without a man you are nothing. Yound girls look forward to going out with a rich guy who can do things for them, whatever happened to doing it for yourself?

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against men. I just have beef with women who think they are inferior because of their sex. Women risk their lives in the name of love or because they want to do what's right. What happened to your happiness? Doing what's right for you? I have seen too many beautiful, intelligent women falling into this trap and it is truly devastating.

Ladies you need to learn to love yourselves and do things for yourselves.....there's nothing sexy about a clingy, insecure and dependant woman. Self love is where it begins, if we want men to treat us right we need to lead by example. Why should someone put you on a pedastal when you treat yourself like a cheap ..........