Racist

Today I read an email that got me thinking about racism. It is still there whether we like to admit it or not. You see it when you go to the mall from the shopkeepers who follow you around to make sure you don't steal anything(u are black after all and 'black people steal').
When you drive a flashy, the police just assume that you stole it. But racism doesn't only come from white people, we are also gulity of it(yep bodarkie).

If one of you starts dating a white person, you have issues with it...'they are sleeping with the enemy'(so to speak). We are gulity of a whole of a lot of things that we accuse them of.

The truth is many of us are still stuck in the past...I'm not saying we should forget our history but my point is; if we don't learn from our past we are doomed to repeat it.

Butterfly

I thought I should take the time to explain why I chose butterfly and my fascination with them.
Butterflies are very fragile and beautiful little creatures. They live a short life but bring such colour and beauty, you just have to admire them.

Maybe that's how i see my myself; a butterfly waiting to spread it's wings. The past years were the cocoon stage and now the catterpillar is turning into butterfly. I know i'm starting to sound crazy but just bear with me. I don't know what else to say, next time you see a butterfly, take time to really look at it and maybe you'll understand what i mean.

ps. do not touch it, you might just break its fragile wings.

Single and happy

Single and happy: Some how people have it in their minds that those 2 words don't go together, it's weird really. We've come to associate being single with loneliness and pain. Especially when a woman is single, 'then there has to be something wrong with her'.



I've been single for a while now, a decision i made after realising that i could achieve more and pay more attention to my needs as a single woman. Ever since i can remember my life has been about the people around me. About their happiness and their thoughts...i had it in mind that if they were happy then i would automatically follow. It took a really bad experience/event to wake me from my little dream world.



I went through what i still say is the hardest situation in my life, it was just months of wishing i would die and crying every morning when i realised that i was still alive and living the nightmare. The event is still fresh in mind and it still pains me to think about it which is why i cannot share it with you. But the point is, i woke up and decided to focus on my happiness.



I now do things because i want to, not because it will make so and so happy. I know it sounds funny but i'm discovering new things about myself and i've actually realised that i'm stronger than i thought, something God was trying to show me all along. I'm not saying I won't get involved in the future but all I'm saying is I'm enjoying my space.



So there, I am single and happy and damn proud to say so.