Single and happy

Single and happy: Some how people have it in their minds that those 2 words don't go together, it's weird really. We've come to associate being single with loneliness and pain. Especially when a woman is single, 'then there has to be something wrong with her'.



I've been single for a while now, a decision i made after realising that i could achieve more and pay more attention to my needs as a single woman. Ever since i can remember my life has been about the people around me. About their happiness and their thoughts...i had it in mind that if they were happy then i would automatically follow. It took a really bad experience/event to wake me from my little dream world.



I went through what i still say is the hardest situation in my life, it was just months of wishing i would die and crying every morning when i realised that i was still alive and living the nightmare. The event is still fresh in mind and it still pains me to think about it which is why i cannot share it with you. But the point is, i woke up and decided to focus on my happiness.



I now do things because i want to, not because it will make so and so happy. I know it sounds funny but i'm discovering new things about myself and i've actually realised that i'm stronger than i thought, something God was trying to show me all along. I'm not saying I won't get involved in the future but all I'm saying is I'm enjoying my space.



So there, I am single and happy and damn proud to say so.